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Is male interest in pornography normal?

\"\"Written byAnn Landers\"\"Medically reviewed byJesse Hanson, Ph.D.
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A reader is uncomfortable with a fiancé’s hidden pornography use and wonders whether the interest is normal or a warning about marriage. They describe the rest of the relationship as ordinary.

The response distinguishes a common behavior from a behavior that is acceptable within a particular relationship.

It encourages a kind but direct discussion of feelings and expectations, including any conditions the reader needs before marriage, while recognizing that secrecy and unresolved disagreement can make feeling secure difficult.

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Reader · Identity withheld

Is it normal for a man to be into pornography? My Fiance seems to really enjoy female nudity, and to be quite honest, I have been questioning if he is the marriage type for me.

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He hides his magazines from me thinking that I don’t know about them. All other things about the relationship are pretty normal. Am I over reacting?

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Answer

Ann Landers

I don’t know what you mean by the word ‘normal’ so I’ll offer several answers for several meanings. First, male interest in pornography is certainly very common. Pornography is a multi-billion dollar business involved in most all forms of visual media including magazines, movies and the internet.

Many companies are involved both on the production and sales side. You just can’t have this sort of Goliath industry without many-many customers willing to pony up cash for your product.

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Your boyfriend is certainly ‘normal’ in the sense that his interest is a common one (provided that he is into conventional pornography and not into violent or child forms, both of which are not normal). Maybe you mean to say “Is my finacee’s use of pornography acceptable?”.

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I have heard of a few women who do accept their husband’s use of porn, but for the most part, women don’t like or accept their spouse using porn. It just offends many women that their spouses could be interested in intimacy with another woman.

Moving forward into a marriage is a big step that carries with it a mutual pledge to grow together and to trust one another. Your fiancee’s use of pornography will work against this process both because it is secret, and because it offends you.

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I think it is in both your interests for you to have a talk with your fiancee. In a kind but firm way, let him know that you know about his use of pornography, and that you don’t approve. But explain to him why you don’t approve, talking about your feelings in the process.

Try not to judge or blame him for his interest. See if you can’t come to an understanding with him that meets both of your needs.

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If you need him to give up his use of pornography prior to feeling it is okay to marry him, then state that, and give him a reasonable amount of time to adjust to this requirement.

Depending on his attachment to the subject matter, it may take him a while to get over feeling ashamed or resentful, even though you are both probably best off if he gives up use all at once. Hopefully his giving up of pornography can be accepted gracefully.

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Know that there is no way for you to truely verify that he has given up his use of pornography; the internet makes it too easy to hide. You will have to feel safe trusting him. If you can’t do that, then you do have grounds to be wary of marriage.

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Buck Black, LCSW

Sex therapy and sexual compulsivity counseling

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Ann Landers

Ann Landers was the leading advice columnist for 47 years, with her widely syndicated columns reaching 90 million readers worldwide.

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Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.

Jesse Hanson, Ph.D., is a clinical and somatic psychologist with over 20 years of experience in neuropsychology, specializing in integrative, mind-body…

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My Fiance seems to really enjoy female nudity, and to be quite honest, I have been questioning if he is the marriage type for me. He hides his magazines from me thinking that I don’t know about them. All other things about the relationship are pretty normal. Am I over reacting? Answer Ann Landers I don’t know what you mean by the word ‘normal’ so I’ll offer several answers for several meanings. First, male interest in pornography is certainly very common. Pornography is a multi-billion dollar business involved in most all forms of visual media including magazines, movies and the internet. Many companies are involved both on the production and sales side. You just can’t have this sort of Goliath industry without many-many customers willing to pony up cash for your product. Your boyfriend is certainly ‘normal’ in the sense that his interest is a common one (provided that he is into conventional pornography and not into violent or child forms, both of which are not normal). 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Is it normal for a man to be into pornography? My Fiance seems to really enjoy female nudity, and to be quite honest, I have been questioning if he is the marriage type for me.

\n

He hides his magazines from me thinking that I don’t know about them. All other things about the relationship are pretty normal. Am I over reacting?

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I don’t know what you mean by the word ‘normal’ so I’ll offer several answers for several meanings. First, male interest in pornography is certainly very common. Pornography is a multi-billion dollar business involved in most all forms of visual media including magazines, movies and the internet.

Many companies are involved both on the production and sales side. You just can’t have this sort of Goliath industry without many-many customers willing to pony up cash for your product.

\n

Your boyfriend is certainly ‘normal’ in the sense that his interest is a common one (provided that he is into conventional pornography and not into violent or child forms, both of which are not normal). Maybe you mean to say “Is my finacee’s use of pornography acceptable?”.

\n

I have heard of a few women who do accept their husband’s use of porn, but for the most part, women don’t like or accept their spouse using porn. It just offends many women that their spouses could be interested in intimacy with another woman.

Moving forward into a marriage is a big step that carries with it a mutual pledge to grow together and to trust one another. Your fiancee’s use of pornography will work against this process both because it is secret, and because it offends you.

\n

I think it is in both your interests for you to have a talk with your fiancee. In a kind but firm way, let him know that you know about his use of pornography, and that you don’t approve. But explain to him why you don’t approve, talking about your feelings in the process.

Try not to judge or blame him for his interest. See if you can’t come to an understanding with him that meets both of your needs.

\n

If you need him to give up his use of pornography prior to feeling it is okay to marry him, then state that, and give him a reasonable amount of time to adjust to this requirement.

Depending on his attachment to the subject matter, it may take him a while to get over feeling ashamed or resentful, even though you are both probably best off if he gives up use all at once. Hopefully his giving up of pornography can be accepted gracefully.

\n

Know that there is no way for you to truely verify that he has given up his use of pornography; the internet makes it too easy to hide. You will have to feel safe trusting him. If you can’t do that, then you do have grounds to be wary of marriage.

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