Self-Acceptance

I am a lesbian woman. I’ve been in a very deep relationship for over 3 years now. My whole life has changed in many positive ways. I’m 27, but feel as though I can’t get past certain fears and insecurities. I know this has to be hard on my lover because she’s a very secure woman, a little older than me, and one of the strongest people I have ever met. She possess great morals and values that were never taught to me growing up, so through the years she’s become my mentor, my best friend, and my everything. She has roots – a family, sisters, friends – that I have never had. Sometimes I can become very jealous/angry that I don’t have these things. I feel so childish – even acting childish at times. I begin to feel as though I share her with everyone, but then I feel as though I smother her. I can’t just relax. I begin to stress, thinking she’s pulling away from me. I’m the emotional one in this relationship. And even though I try hard not to cry, I end up doing so every time I turn around. I feel as though she might be losing something for me, so I’m trying to hold on for dear life. I don’t know how to be a stronger woman, and i think it’s driving a nail into this relationship. I’m beginning to see that she doesn’t have patience with my emotions anymore. Is there any advice you can share with me?