Sexuality and Mental Health
Sexuality is an aspect of human identity that includes sexual orientation, attraction, desires, and how a person expresses intimacy. It also plays a role in how people relate to their bodies and the beliefs they hold about sex and relationships. Sexuality is deeply personal and won’t look the same for everyone. For some, it may shift or evolve over time. Struggling with mental health can affect how a person experiences desire, while sexual dysfunction can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, or low self-worth.

Understanding Sexual Orientation
A person’s sexual orientation is an integral part of their identity. While it’s easy to stick to labels like straight, gay, or bisexual, sexuality is much more nuanced than many people realize.
Some common sexual orientations include [1]:
- Heterosexual: Also known as “straight,” these individuals are attracted to people of a different gender.
- Homosexual: Often referred to as “gay” or “lesbian,” these individuals are attracted to people of the same gender.
- Bisexual: This orientation includes people who are attracted to more than one gender.
- Pansexual: Individuals who are pansexual are attracted to others regardless of gender.
- Asexual: People who are asexual experience little to no sexual attraction to others, regardless of gender.
- Queer: This is a broad label used by those who feel their sexual identity doesn’t fit neatly into traditional categories.
Sexual orientation isn’t always visible, and that’s okay. Some people are open about who they’re attracted to, while others choose to keep that part of their lives private, sometimes out of personal comfort and at other times due to fear of judgment or misunderstanding. For example, an asexual person may feel pressure to explain their identity to others and worry that it won’t be taken seriously.
Everyone’s experience with orientation is different. What matters most is that people feel safe and supported in expressing it in the way that feels right for them.
Integrating Mental and Sexual Health
While people often think of sex as something that only affects the body, much of a person’s sex life takes place in the brain [2]. For all genders and sexual orientations, how a person feels plays a significant role in arousal. Struggling with anxiety, depression, or another mental health issue can make it challenging to have or enjoy sex. On the flip side, when someone is physically unwell, sex is usually far from their mind.
Sexual dysfunction is relatively common in the U.S. and globally. In the U.S. alone, around 31% of men and 43% of women experience some form of sexual dysfunction [2]. For men, the most common issues include premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Among women, about one-third report a decrease in sexual desire. These experiences can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, anxiety, and other challenging emotions, sometimes keeping people from seeking help.
Mental health conditions like anxiety and depression also play a role in the development of sexual dysfunctions. Men are more likely to experience performance anxiety, including concerns about erection durability or erectile dysfunction, both of which can cause significant stress and lower self-esteem. Depression, which tends to affect women at higher rates than men, can lead to feeling less desirable, more self-conscious about the body, or hesitant to engage in sexual activity, even with a trusted partner [2].
Stigma and Shame
Regardless of one’s sexuality, stigma and shame can have a powerful impact on how people express themselves. Whether someone identifies as heterosexual, asexual, LGBTQ+, or anything in between, everyone grows up with different ideas about what is culturally acceptable, and these beliefs can affect some people more deeply than others.
Even for those who are no longer religious, it can be hard to separate from the beliefs and teachings they were raised with, especially when it comes to sex and sexuality. People who grew up in particularly conservative religious environments may have been taught that sexual desire is sinful, or that only heterosexual marriage is valid in the eyes of the church.
Religious shame often runs deep and tends to linger. A person may feel guilt or fear around their desire, or feel “dirty” for exploring what sexuality means to them.
Cultural expectations around gender also shape how people experience sexual shame. Although things are shifting, many women and girls are still taught, directly or indirectly, to suppress their sexuality. This can lead to shame around feeling desire or to the belief that their sexuality exists for others, not for themselves.
Letting go of shame and guilt can be difficult, but it is not impossible. Therapy and trauma-informed support groups can be beneficial. In some cases, creating physical or emotional distance from people or environments that reinforce shame can also support healing.
Intersectionality and Inclusion
Sexuality and mental health are influenced by other aspects of a person’s identity, such as their race, religion, culture, and gender identity. Being aware of this can help explain why some individuals face added barriers when seeking mental health support.
Members of the LGBTQ+ community may experience additional challenges in accessing the care they deserve, including:
- Racism or Homophobia: Some LGBTQ+ individuals experience racism within LGBTQ+ spaces and/or homophobia within racial or religious communities [3]. This can create an environment of isolation and disconnection.
- Financial Constraints: While not exclusive to the LGBTQ+ community, financial barriers can make it hard to access relevant mental health resources, especially for those living in poverty or without insurance that covers mental health care.
- Language Barriers: Immigrant or non-native English speakers often face the challenge of most mental health services being offered only in English. Not speaking the language can be isolating in itself and may discourage people from seeking help.
- Religious Trauma or Guilt: For LGBTQ+ individuals from particularly conservative or fundamentalist backgrounds, navigating their sexuality can be a daily struggle, often tied to shame, fear, or rejection [4].
To better meet the needs of diverse LGBTQ+ communities, mental health providers should be trained to recognize how culture, race, and gender shape a person’s lived experience. Being trauma-informed and making genuine efforts to reflect the communities they serve can go a long way in fostering trust and understanding. In underserved areas, peer-led and community-based programs can also make a significant impact.
Sexual Trauma and Healing
Sexual trauma can have a lasting impact on both mental health and a person’s relationship with their sexuality. People who’ve experienced sexual trauma at any point in their lives may struggle with feelings of guilt, fear, or shame, and may find it difficult to trust new partners. They might also have trouble feeling safe in their bodies or avoid sexual intimacy altogether.
Survivors of sexual assault often experience symptoms such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress, dissociation, or low self-esteem [5]. Certain triggers, whether it’s a specific touch, word, or environment, can bring up painful memories or flashbacks.
It’s important to remember that healing from sexual trauma isn’t linear and looks different for everyone. Working with a trauma-informed therapist is often a helpful starting point. Practices such as somatic therapy, yoga, or breathwork can also support mind-body reconnection and help alleviate dissociative symptoms. Setting boundaries, both physical and emotional, can empower survivors to feel safe, grounded, and respected as they navigate intimacy on their terms.
Exploring Sexual Fluidity
The word “fluid” is helpful because it frames sexual orientation as something more flexible and spectrum-based, rather than fixed or unchanging [6].
Sexual fluidity relates to sexual orientation, sexual identity, and sexual behavior. While it’s easy to place people into specific labels, psychologists now understand that human sexuality is far more complex than simply being gay or straight. Viewing orientation as a spectrum enables a deeper understanding of how attraction and identity can evolve throughout a person’s life.
Anyone can experience sexual fluidity, but research shows it’s more common among younger people and those in the LGBTQ+ community. This might appear to be being attracted to one gender at a particular stage in life and then feeling drawn to a different gender later on. It can also include shifts in how someone identifies, like identifying as lesbian at one point and bisexual later on.
Sexuality is personal and evolving. Recognizing its fluid nature gives people space to explore and express themselves without the pressure of having everything figured out.
Building Safe Spaces
A person’s sexuality is a key component of who they are and how they show up in the world. It can also influence their overall mental health and well-being, in both positive and negative ways. Feeling safe to explore and express one’s sexuality helps increase confidence and build a stronger sense of self. At the same time, stigma, shame, and past trauma can make that process harder. That’s why it’s important to create more awareness around different sexual orientations and gender identities.
People who are struggling with understanding or accepting their sexuality may benefit from talk therapy or opening up to someone they trust. Everyone’s experience is different, and some may face added challenges related to their cultural background or religious upbringing. Creating safe, supportive environments gives people the space they need to feel seen and heard without judgment.
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- Ley, D.J. (2017, August). Overcoming religious sexual shame. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/women-who-stray/201708/overcoming-religious-sexual-shame
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Megan Eileen McDonough is a health and wellness writer with 10+ years of experience in mental health, women’s health, postpartum care, and adolescent health.
Dr. Holly Schiff, PsyD, is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of children, young adults, and their families.
The Clinical Affairs Team at MentalHealth.com is a dedicated group of medical professionals with diverse and extensive clinical experience. They actively contribute to the development of content, products, and services, and meticulously review all medical material before publication to ensure accuracy and alignment with current research and conversations in mental health. For more information, please visit the Editorial Policy.
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