Why Do I Feel Like Everyone Is Trying To Upset Me?

Profile image placeholder
Author: Dr. Allan Schwartz, Ph.D. Last updated:
This content from MentalHelp.net will be updated by March 31, 2025. Learn more

Question

I go through stages every few months where I feel completely over emotional and really upset. I feel like all the people around me are actually trying to piss me off or upset me even though I know they aren’t because they couldn’t care less about how down I have been. I feel really left out and ignored. I’m not an attention seeker, I really hate people like that, but I feel abandoned by those I thought would care. Small little things really bother me and make me so angry. I’m glad I have enough self control not to punch someone out for every small thing that sets me off. Then, after all this emotion and upset for about a week or two, I’ll be fine again for another few months.

What is wrong with me?

Note: Please review our disclaimer regarding the following answer

Answer

There are a couple of comments that believe reveal some of what is going on with you. You stated that people couldn’t care less when you are down. The fact that you have episodes of being down for one to two weeks at a time, indicates that depression could very well be what is making you feel miserable. Depresssion can be episodic so that, as you say, you experience these problems every couple of months.

Irritability, anger and depression are often rooted in feelings of helplessness and helplessness about life. This mixture of feelings define depression. People tend to believe that depresssion means feeling low, sad, morose. Actually, anger is an important part of the picture of depression.  That is why arguing over things small and large occurs. By the way, we need to add anxiety into the “soup” and then we truly have depression. An additional ingredient in your case is your thought that everyhone around you is trying to make you upset.

There are other possible things that could be happening to cause you all of this unhappiness. That is why you really need to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist in order to get an accurate diagnosis. Then you will be given a recommendation for what to do next. That could be psychotherapy alone, medication with psychotherapy or medication alone, although the las is unlikely since it’s the combination of therapy and medicine that works best.

I do want to express my concern to you about this comment that you wrote:

“I’m glad I have enough self control not to punch someone out for every small thing that sets me off.”

My concern is that, if you do not seek help, your emotions might one day boil over to an extent that you take a swing at someone.  People get into fights when enough stress builds so that they stop being able to control their anger.

Best of Luck

Content Disclaimer

The content on this page was originally from MentalHelp.net, a website we acquired and moved to MentalHealth.com in September 2024. This content has not yet been fully updated to meet our content standards and may be incomplete. We are committed to editing, enhancing, and medically reviewing all content by March 31, 2025. Please check back soon, and thank you for visiting MentalHealth.com. Learn more about our content standards here.

Pending Medical Review

We take mental health content seriously, which is why we follow strict content guidelines to deliver the highest quality information possible. All editorial decisions regarding the content published on this site are made by the MentalHealth.com Editorial Team, under the guidance of our Medical Affairs Team.