Embrace Your Introverted Self

Graduate school is full of defining moments, but one of mine stood out—not because of an aced exam or a stellar research paper. This moment mattered because I claimed something invaluable: my dignity and the right to be an introvert.
It happened one Monday night during my Introduction to Counseling course. As you might expect, many counseling students are extroverts who relish discussing themselves, drawing connections between class concepts and their self-proclaimed intricate lives.
There’s nothing wrong with that, but I was different. As one of the few introverts in the room, I preferred to process ideas internally. Instead of jumping into discussions, I let ideas percolate, confident that my insights would solidify after thoughtful reflection.
This approach, however, didn’t align well with the dynamic of a counseling class. By week six or seven, some extroverted classmates began openly voicing their frustrations during discussions:
Why can’t everyone talk? Why do we have to carry the weight of participation?” I think everyone should be required to contribute.
And then, to my surprise, the professor agreed. While his penchant for stirring the pot was well-known, I couldn’t see a sound educational purpose in putting introverts on the spot. Still, he pressed forward, asking the quieter students to explain their silence. When it was my turn, he asked directly, “What about you, Carrie? Why don’t you speak up? What gives you the right to remain silent?”
Thankfully, introverts are often keen observers, and I was no exception. I quickly flipped through my notebook to find my notes from the first day of class. That day, the professor had been in a reflective mood, quoting Eastern philosophers.
As the room fell silent, all eyes turned to me. Calmly, I responded:
Well, Professor, I believe I have the right to remain silent because of something you shared on the first day of class. You quoted Lao Tzu: ‘Those who know do not speak. Those who speak do not know.’
He paused, scrutinizing me, then smiled and said, “You just earned yourself an A.”
The Value of Introversion
While that classroom exchange was memorable, it also highlighted a broader issue—introverts often face challenges in environments that favor extroverted traits, like active participation, quick responses, and verbal expression. But being an introvert is not a flaw; in fact, it carries several important mental health benefits when embraced properly.
Research on introversion and mental health highlights that introverts tend to process emotions more deeply. This introspection can contribute to a greater sense of self-awareness, allowing introverts to regulate their emotions more effectively. According to psychologist Carl Jung, introverts are drawn to their inner world, where they gain energy and clarity, and this self-reflection can lead to healthier coping mechanisms in stressful situations.
However, introverts may also face challenges in environments that overly value social interaction. Constant exposure to high-stimulation, extroverted spaces can lead to burnout, stress, and anxiety. This is because introverts are often more sensitive to external stimuli. The American Psychological Association notes that introverts tend to have higher levels of dopamine in response to social stimuli, which means they are less inclined to seek out social interaction, preferring solitude to recharge.
That’s why it’s important for introverts to create balance—both in their personal lives and professional environments. When allowed the space to reflect and engage at their own pace, introverts excel in many areas, particularly in roles that require careful thought, empathy, and deep listening.
The Strength in Silence
Introversion doesn’t mean silence is a weakness; on the contrary, it is a powerful tool for self-awareness, creativity, and concentration. As research by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi suggests, introverts are more likely to enter “flow” states, where they are deeply immersed in their work. This allows them to produce work that is thoughtful and well-considered, qualities that are often valued in counseling and therapeutic practices.
In fact, one of the most well-known introverts, author and speaker Susan Cain, has championed the value of introversion in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. She explains, “There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.” Her words highlight that introverts contribute unique perspectives, often driven by reflection and careful thought.
Final Thoughts
Introversion is a trait that’s often misunderstood in our extrovert-dominant world. However, embracing it can lead to deeper mental health benefits such as emotional regulation, resilience, and clarity. As introverts, we may face challenges in social and professional environments, but we also possess strengths—strengths that allow us to reflect deeply, work thoughtfully, and contribute in meaningful ways.
To my fellow introverts: embrace who you are. Thoughtfulness and introspection are strengths, not shortcomings. And don’t forget that quote—it might serve you well one day.
Editor’s Note: Are you or someone you know facing mental health challenges? Visit our mental health network to connect with therapists and find support for improved wellness. For emergencies, visit 988lifeline.org for immediate assistance.
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Dr. Carrie Steckl earned her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology with a Minor in Gerontology from Indiana University – Bloomington in 2001 and has spent more than 10 years working for agencies in the health and human service sectors.
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