Overcoming Negative Energy and Building Positivity

Author: Bob Livingstone, LCSW Medical Reviewer: Dr. Jesse Hanson, Ph.D. Last updated:

Negative energy affects people of all ages, influencing their thoughts, emotions, and interactions. Those who carry negativity can seem dominant, using criticism and put-downs to affect those around them. These remarks—whether made directly or behind someone’s back—often stem from frustration or insecurity. In some cases, they are intentional efforts to create drama and manipulate social situations.

One of the most harmful aspects of negative energy is how easily it spreads. Exposure to constant negativity can increase stress, anxiety, and even depressive thoughts. Over time, even positive individuals may begin to mirror these behaviors, impacting relationships, workplaces, and family dynamics. [1]

Negative energy isn’t always obvious. It can take subtle forms like passive-aggressiveness, cynicism, or persistent pessimism. When negativity becomes a habit, it limits perspective, making it difficult for individuals to see solutions or opportunities. This can lead to a cycle of doubt and hopelessness, affecting both the person exhibiting negativity and those around them.

Recognizing negative energy is the first step in managing it. This article will help you identify its different forms and implement strategies to counteract its effects. By taking action, you can create a more positive and supportive environment for yourself and those around you.

What is Negative Energy?

Negative energy is an emotional force that drains individuals and disrupts interactions. It stems from unfavorable attitudes, behaviors, or social exchanges, often leading to tension, conflict, or discomfort. This negativity can spread quickly, affecting emotional well-being and shaping the dynamics of relationships, workplaces, and communities. [2]

How Negative Energy is Expressed and Experienced

Negative energy isn’t always direct—it can also show up in passive ways. Some people withdraw from conversations, refuse to engage, or respond with dismissive remarks like “Whatever,” “I don’t care,” or “That’s not interesting.” Others use silence to make those around them feel ignored or unimportant. These behaviors often signal a lack of enthusiasm, frustration, or agitation.

Many find negative energy overwhelming because society often values competition over cooperation. The pressure to outshine others often drives criticism and put-downs rather than support and encouragement, making negativity a common part of daily interactions.

Media also plays a role in normalizing negativity. Reality television often highlights humiliation as entertainment, while news programs turn debates into personal attacks rather than thoughtful discussions. Over time, this exposure reinforces the idea that belittling others is acceptable, causing negativity to seep into everyday life.

People who frequently express negative energy often struggle with their own self-esteem. They may feel insecure about their appearance, intelligence, or abilities, and as a result, put others down to feel better about themselves. [3]

Identifying Negative Energy

Recognizing negative energy isn’t always easy, especially if you’ve been exposed to it for a long time or have come to see it as normal. It can subtly influence your emotions, interactions, and overall well-being before you even realize it. Whether it comes from people, environments, or even your own thought patterns, negative energy often follows recognizable patterns. By understanding its key signs, you can become more aware of its presence and take steps to minimize its impact.

Social Signs of Negative Energy

Negative energy often manifests in social interactions, creating tension and discomfort. In group settings, it can drain enthusiasm, discourage open communication, and foster conflict. Some key indicators include:

  • Tension, silence, and lack of open communication – Conversations feel strained, forced, or filled with unspoken resentment.
  • Constant criticism, judgment, or negativity – People frequently point out flaws, dismiss ideas, or engage in pessimistic thinking.
  • Defensiveness or resistance to feedback – Even constructive conversations turn into arguments as individuals react with hostility.
  • Lack of cooperation or support – Teamwork feels impossible, and mutual respect is missing.
  • Frequent conflicts, arguments, or unresolved issues – Disagreements linger without resolution, leading to ongoing hostility.
  • Withdrawal and avoidance – People disengage, emotionally or physically, to escape negativity.
  • Negative or harmful gossip – Conversations revolve around tearing others down rather than uplifting or constructive discussions.

Physical Symptoms of Negative Energy

Negative energy doesn’t just affect emotions—it can take a toll on your body as well. [4] Prolonged exposure to stress and negativity can lead to physical symptoms, including:

  • Muscle tension and tightness – A constant state of stress can make you feel physically rigid or tense.
  • Headaches – Mental strain and emotional stress often trigger headaches or migraines.
  • General discomfort – A lingering sense of unease or restlessness in certain environments.
  • Fatigue – Being around negativity can be mentally and physically draining.
  • Elevated heart rate due to stress – Anxiety and frustration can lead to increased heart rate and a sense of uneasiness.

Emotional and Psychological Signs

Negative energy also influences your emotional and mental state. It can slowly erode positivity, motivation, and emotional stability, leading to:

  • Increased stress and anxiety – A constant feeling of pressure, worry, or unease.
  • Irritability and frustration – Small inconveniences may feel overwhelming or trigger outbursts.
  • Anger and resentment – Persistent feelings of bitterness or hostility toward others.
  • Sadness or a sense of hopelessness – A deep, lingering sense of emotional heaviness or lack of motivation.
  • Difficulty concentrating or focusing – Negative energy can make it hard to think clearly or stay engaged.

By identifying these signs, you can take steps to shield yourself from negative energy, establish healthy boundaries, and create a more uplifting environment. With awareness and action, you can regain control over your emotional well-being and make room for positivity, resilience, and meaningful connections

Negative Energy and the News

The news plays a significant role in shaping our perceptions of the world, and unfortunately, much of what is broadcasted revolves around conflict, crisis, and division. While staying informed is important, constant exposure to negativity in the media can take a toll on emotional well-being. [5] Sensationalized headlines, heated debates, and fear-driven narratives often create a sense of anxiety, frustration, and helplessness.

Many news programs and online articles thrive on controversy and outrage, which can lead to a cycle of negativity. Watching or reading about distressing events repeatedly can reinforce feelings of hopelessness, making it difficult to maintain a balanced and optimistic perspective.

To manage the impact of negative energy from the news:

  • Be mindful of your consumption – Limit exposure to distressing news, especially before bed or first thing in the morning.
  • Seek balanced sources – Look for outlets that provide objective, fact-based reporting rather than those that focus on fear or outrage.
  • Take breaks – Step away from the news when it starts to feel overwhelming. Disconnecting for a while can help restore a sense of calm.
  • Focus on positive stories – Make an effort to find news that highlights solutions, progress, and uplifting events.

Negative Energy and Social Media

Social media has the power to connect people, but it can also be a breeding ground for negativity. From online arguments and toxic comment sections to unrealistic comparisons and misinformation, digital spaces often contribute to emotional exhaustion and stress. The pressure to keep up with curated highlights of others’ lives can lead to self-doubt, insecurity, and a distorted sense of reality. [6]

Negativity spreads quickly on social platforms, with outrage and controversy often getting more engagement than positivity. Heated debates, cyberbullying, and divisive content can create a cycle of stress and frustration, making it difficult to maintain a healthy mindset.

To reduce the impact of negative energy on social media:

  • Curate your feed – Unfollow accounts that bring negativity and engage with content that inspires, educates, or uplifts.
  • Set time limits – Spending excessive time on social media can amplify stress. Setting boundaries can help you maintain a healthier balance.
  • Avoid engaging in toxic discussions – Not every online debate is worth your energy. Step away from negativity rather than fueling it.
  • Remember that social media isn’t reality – People share their best moments, not their struggles. Keep perspective and focus on your own journey.

The Psychological Toll of Negative Energy

Constant exposure to negative energy can take a serious toll on emotional and mental well-being. Research shows a strong connection between chronic negativity and increased stress, which can heighten anxiety and raise the risk of mood disorders. [7]

People who frequently experience negative interactions are more likely to develop symptoms of depression and anxiety. Over time, this exposure can erode mental health, making it harder to stay positive, motivated, or emotionally balanced. This reinforces the need to cultivate supportive and uplifting environments to protect overall well-being.

Dealing with Negative Energy

People respond to negativity in different ways—some may try to befriend a negative person to avoid becoming their target, while others might argue or distance themselves completely. While these reactions are natural, they don’t always resolve the issue. Instead, adopting intentional strategies can help you manage negativity more effectively:

  • Set Boundaries – Limit your exposure to negative people and situations to protect your well-being.
  • Practice Mindfulness – Stay present and aware of your emotions to avoid being overwhelmed by negativity.
  • Seek Positive Outlets – Engage in activities that uplift you, such as hobbies, exercise, or creative pursuits.
  • Express Your Feelings – Communicate calmly and assertively rather than suppressing emotions or reacting impulsively.
  • Surround Yourself with Positivity – Spend time with supportive, encouraging people who inspire a healthy mindset.
  • Prioritize Self-Care – Maintain good sleep, nutrition, and physical activity to strengthen emotional resilience.
  • Minimize Exposure – When possible, distance yourself from negative influences to maintain a positive mindset.
  • Use Positive Affirmations – Counter negative self-talk by reinforcing positive and empowering thoughts.
  • Seek Professional Support – Therapy or counseling can help process and manage the impact of negativity.
  • Cultivate Gratitude – Shift your focus toward the good in your life to foster a more optimistic perspective.

Helping Others Overcome Negative Energy

Supporting someone who is struggling with negative energy can be challenging, but with patience and the right approach, you can help them shift toward a more positive mindset. Whether they are dealing with stress, low self-esteem, or a habit of negativity, your encouragement can make a difference. Here are some strategies to guide them toward a healthier perspective:

  • Lead by Example – Demonstrate a positive attitude in your own life. Your optimism and resilience can be contagious.
  • Listen Without Judgment – Sometimes, negativity stems from feeling unheard or misunderstood. Offer a safe space for them to express their emotions without criticism.
  • Encourage Self-Reflection – Help them recognize how negativity affects their well-being and relationships. Ask gentle questions that prompt introspection.
  • Promote Positive Habits – Suggest activities that boost their mood, such as exercise, creative hobbies, or mindfulness practices.
  • Set Gentle Boundaries – While offering support, avoid getting pulled into their negativity. Let them know you’re there for them while maintaining your own emotional well-being.
  • Redirect Negative Thoughts – If they frequently complain or dwell on problems, help them reframe their perspective by focusing on solutions or gratitude.
  • Introduce Mindfulness Practices – Encourage activities like meditation, deep breathing, or journaling to help them manage emotions more effectively.
  • Celebrate Small Wins – Acknowledge their progress, no matter how minor, to reinforce positive changes.
  • Suggest Professional Support – If their negativity is deeply rooted or persistent, encourage seeking therapy or counseling for additional guidance.

Helping someone navigate negative energy requires patience, empathy, and consistency. By providing encouragement and offering constructive support, you can empower them to shift their mindset and cultivate a more positive outlook.

Embracing Positivity and Growth

Recognizing and addressing negative energy is a powerful step toward reclaiming your emotional well-being. By becoming aware of its impact and taking intentional steps to counteract it, you create space for positivity, resilience, and meaningful connections. Overcoming negativity is not about ignoring difficult emotions but about learning to navigate them in a healthier, more constructive way.

For those working to break free from negative energy, remember that change takes time. Every small effort you make—whether setting boundaries, practicing gratitude, or surrounding yourself with positive influences—contributes to a stronger, more balanced mindset. Be patient with yourself and recognize that progress is a journey, not an overnight transformation.

If you’re supporting someone struggling with negativity, continue to lead with empathy and encouragement. Your kindness and understanding may be the catalyst that helps them shift their perspective. Even if you cannot change someone else’s mindset, you can inspire and influence through your own example.

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Author Bob Livingstone, LCSW Writer

Bob Livingstone is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who works in private practice. He writes about wellness, personal development, and abuse.

Published: Feb 10th 2025, Last edited: Feb 14th 2025

Dr. Jesse Hanson, PhD
Medical Reviewer Dr. Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.

Dr. Jesse Hanson, Ph.D., is a somatic psychologist with over 20 years of experience. He holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, specializing in somatic and neuropsychology, as well as a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from the Santa Barbara Graduate Institute.

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